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sopherielspeaks:

Since I blog lots about living a great life when you have a mental illness, I wanted to compile all the posts into a large one here! :)

Originally posted by mypsychedelicsupernova

Body Positivity

Negative Thoughts are a Myth
Believe in Your Brilliance and Tame Your Inner Critic
50 Self-Loving Affirmations
Love Your Body Through Conscious Eating

Breaking Down Stigma

Personal Development Isn’t a Race
Ableism in Self Improvement Culture
3 Self Help Ideas Making Us Feel Not Good Enough
Authenticity, Self Love, and Feeling Broken
How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Mental Illness

Coping Strategies

How to Make Friends that Really Love You
How to Prevent the Dangers of Emotional Burnout
3 Body Hacks to Stop Anxiety in Its Tracks
Negative Thoughts are a Myth
3 Self Help Ideas Making Us Feel Not Good Enough
How to Find the Best Coping Strategies for You
2 Things to Help You Keep Going When Life Gets Tough
How to Break Free of Any Self Defeating Cycle
Overcome Adversity Through Love and Compassion
Bad Day? 6 Powerful Ways to Get Through It
Find Peace by Expressing Your Emotions

Dreams and Goals

Live Life to the Fullest by Feeling Deeply
Personal Development Isn’t a Race
Your Natural Talent Makes You a Gift to This World
Joy Comes from Living a Meaningful Life
How to Overcome Anything
Live Your Dreams: The Essential First Step

Empowerment

You Do Not Have a Meaningless Life
Live Life to the Fullest by Feeling Deeply
Authenticity, Self Love, and Feeling Broken
Optimism and Positivity in Difficult Situations
Negative Thoughts are a Myth
Overcoming Abuse Has Truly Empowered You
Your Natural Talent Makes You a Gift to This World
When You Raise Awareness, You Uplift Yourself and the World
Joy Comes from Living a Meaningful Life
Your Inner Power is in Every Step You Take to Heal
Believe in Your Brilliance and Tame Your Inner Critic
How to Overcome Anything
Live Your Dreams: The Essential First Step
How to Break Free of Any Self Defeating Cycle
Why Letting Go is So Important
Unlock Your Strongest Personal Skills
Self Love is a Process, and That’s Okay
Overcome Adversity Through Love and Compassion
4 Things You Need to Hear When Living With Mental Illness
Change the World by Helping One Person
Use the Power of Choice to Create the Life of Your Dreams
We Are Accountable for Our Own Joy

Joy

Live Life to the Fullest by Feeling Deeply
Joy Comes from Living a Meaningful Life
Creating Abundance in Situations of Poverty
The Importance of Living with a Sense of Wonder
We Are Accountable for Our Own Joy

Living with Mental Illness

How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Mental Illness
3 Body Hacks to Stop Anxiety in Its Tracks
Personal Development Isn’t a Race
Your Inner Power is in Every Step You Take to Heal
3 Self Help Ideas Making Us Feel Not Good Enough
How to Find the Best Coping Strategies for You
2 Things to Help You Keep Going When Life Gets Tough
How to Overcome Anything
Real Advice from People Living with Mental Illness
4 Things You Need to Hear When Living With Mental Illness
16 Ways to Enjoy the Holidays When You Have a Mental Illness

Overcoming Hardship and Trauma

How to Prevent the Dangers of Emotional Burnout
You Do Not Have a Meaningless Life
Authenticity, Self Love, and Feeling Broken
Optimism and Positivity in Difficult Situations
Overcoming Abuse Has Truly Empowered You
Personal Development Isn’t a Race
Your Natural Talent Makes You a Gift to This World
Joy Comes from Living a Meaningful Life
Your Inner Power is in Every Step You Take to Heal
How to Find the Best Coping Strategies for You
2 Things to Help You Keep Going When Life Gets Tough
How to Overcome Anything
How to Break Free of Any Self Defeating Cycle
Why Letting Go is So Important
Creating Abundance in Situations of Poverty
Unlock Your Strongest Personal Skills
Overcome Adversity Through Love and Compassion
Use the Power of Choice to Create the Life of Your Dreams
Find Peace by Expressing Your Emotions

Healthy Relationships

How to Make Friends that Really Love You
7 Strategies to Become a Good Listener

Self Love

Authenticity, Self Love, and Feeling Broken
How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Mental Illness
Negative Thoughts are a Myth
Your Natural Talent Makes You a Gift to This World
Your Inner Power is in Every Step You Take to Heal
Believe in Your Brilliance and Tame Your Inner Critic
Self Love is a Process, and That’s Okay
50 Self-Loving Affirmations
4 Things You Need to Hear When Living With Mental Illness
Bad Day? 6 Powerful Ways to Get Through It
Love Your Body Through Conscious Eating

Stress Management

How to Prevent the Dangers of Emotional Burnout
3 Body Hacks to Stop Anxiety in Its Tracks
How to Find the Best Coping Strategies for You
2 Things to Help You Keep Going When Life Gets Tough
Creating Abundance in Situations of Poverty
The Importance of Living with a Sense of Wonder
Bad Day? 6 Powerful Ways to Get Through It
Love Your Body Through Conscious Eating
16 Ways to Enjoy the Holidays When You Have a Mental Illness
Find Peace by Expressing Your Emotions

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autismserenity:

blackstoic:

blackstoic:

blackstoic:

blackstoic:

blackstoic:

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blackstoic:

blackstoic:

blackstoic:

i hope youre all lying and hyping your cv/resume’s up

i have never gotten an interview and not been offered a job position after it

I mean lets be honest if everyone else is gassing theirs up like no tomorrow and you’re being as honest as you can who th are the recruitment team going to be more interested in

There’s people working in my banks head office with me WITH MUCH MORE EXPERIENCE than me BUT ARE GETTING PAID LESS

we’re doing the exact same job role

the point I’m trying to make here is if you’ve handled finances for a company you’re now what i would call a treasurer my g, if you’ve done admin work you are now a secretary (or as I’ve put Management secretary)

you help some kid with his homework? you’re a private tutor.

keep your bullets points for the job role as concise and important sounding as possible AND ALWAYS EMPHASIS THAT YOURE A TEAM PLAYER IF YOURE GOING TO WORK IN A TEAM.

go into that interview room and get your story straight the night before and remember that interviews are two way conversatons yes they might be grilling you but at the end of it make sure to grill them BACK. do you have any hesitations about my qualifications? my suitability for the job? any feedback on my cv? how long have you been working at this company? do you like it here? whats the work environment like?

I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS GET THE SAME FEEDBACK WHEN THEY GET BACK IN TOUCH WITH ME

“ive never been asked those questions before” / “you were one of the strongest candidates”

throughout the interview emphasise that youre about progression, that you want more responsibilities than you did at your previous job, tell them the hours here are more suitable for me than my last ones were, AND WHEN IT COMES TO SALARY NEGOTIATION its all about continuity. tell them again that it boils down to progression. make up a reasonable figure for how much you were paid in your last role (do your research for how much the industry youre applying to or the role youre applying for pays, base it on that) tell them you expect more than you were previously paid. do not give them a figure. progression is your primary focus, tell them if youre progressing youre happy. leave it at that.

LIE THROUGH YOUR TEETH AND GET THAT MONEY

I had an interview yesterday, at the place I’ve been temping, where I busted out the “is there anything about my skills or background that makes you concerned about my fit for this job” question for the first time.

Neither of my supervisors had never gotten it before either. They had to think for a while, and then it turned into them telling me how great I am and what they love about me.

This stuff is real. I would also say: none of it is lying. This is taking experience that you normally downplay and write off, and putting it in accurate words they’ll understand.

It’s hacking the capitalist system. Why ISN’T helping a kid with homework “tutoring”, when the only thing missing is a paycheck?

It’s especially important for anyone who isn’t a cis white man, because many of us are so thoroughly trained to feel like we are not good enough.

Privilege tells people they can fake it, and that they’re good enough just as people and can learn the skills on the job. Abuse and oppression tell people they aren’t good enough as people and that even their high skills are probably below average, and that unless they had the specific job title or were using certain skills officially, nobody will think it counts.

The goal is to at least fake the confidence of a privileged person, to give the employer a chance at seeing the skills that you’ve been trained to undervalue.

I would also say to answer any query of “Have you done [X small task] before?” with “I have, but it’s been a while.” Or, “I have, but it was a slightly different program.”

100% THEY WILL GLADLY WALK YOU THROUGH EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW, and I stress ‘gladly’ because claiming prior knowledge boosts their confidence in your abilities and any slips you make are already covered by your caveat. 

blackstoic may have deactivated their account but this advice is fucking gold and all y’all looking for jobs or who think you might one day need to look for a new job PRINT THIS SHIT OUT AND STAPLE IT TO THE WALL. 

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uber-chunks:

killyouranxiety:

a really excellent way to reduce anxiety is to pick up a new hobby. find something you’re interested in, learn it, then use it as a healthy and productive way to cope.

• learn to play guitar
• learn how to make interactive stories with the free program Twine
• learn how to make pixel art
• learn another language
• learn how to build a ship in a bottle
• learn how to develop your own film
• learn how to embroider
• learn how to make chiptunes (8-bit music)
• learn how to make origami (the art of paper folding)
• learn how to make tumblr themes
• learn how to make jewelry 
• learn how to make candy
• learn how to make terrariums
• learn how to make your own perfume
• learn how to make your own tea
• learn how to build birdhouses
• learn how to read tarot cards
• learn how to make zines
• learn how to code
• learn how to whittle (wood carving)
• learn how to make candles
• learn how to make clay figurines
• learn how to knit scarves
• learn how to become an amateur astronomer
• learn some yoyo tricks
• learn how to start a collection
• learn how to start body building
• learn how to edit wikipedia articles
• learn how to decorate iphone cases
• learn how to do freelance writing
• learn how to make your own cards and
• learn how to make your own envelopes
• learn how to play the ukulele 
• learn how to make gifs
• learn how to play chess
• learn how to juggle
• learn how to guerrilla garden
• learn how to chart your family history
• learn how to keep chickens
• learn how to do yoga
• learn how to do magic
• learn how to raise and breed butterflies
• learn how to play dungeons & dragons
• learn how to skateboard
• learn how to do parkour
  
• learn how to surf
  
• learn how to arrange flowers
  
• learn how to make stuffed animals

IM GOING TO LEARN THEM ALL

CHALLENGE considered :’)

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danielle-mertina:

I now know firsthand that going to a car dealership is…an experience.

I went going exactly what car I wanted and I imagine that if you don’t know that much it’ll be easier for a dealership to screw you over when you get there by feeding you misinformation about a car, manipulating you into buying a more expensive model, and etc.

I had already done all my research online so I knew what I wanted. Down to the color. (Green is my favorite color!)

So boyfriend and I went (I followed Tumblr’s advice about bringing a man lol). And I test drove the car and loved it just like I knew I would. And THEN the real dealership experience began.

The bottomline is that I knew my credit score and so I knew what kind of interest rate (APR) I should expect. I also knew the manufacturer price of the car (MSRP) and I knew how much they were selling for on average in my area ($3k less than MSRP).

So I knew what I was going to pay and I had already decided on that in my head.

So dealer #1 (a white guy–this is relevant to mention lol) brings back the first set of numbers. He cushions it with making small talk and flattering me on starting my PhD in August. He also chats up boyfriend.

The numbers were bad. I could tell looking at it. Although they didn’t say the APR, I knew that my monthly rate shouldn’t be that high based on the number of months I’d be paying it. Also they only gave me $2k off MSRP.

I noted that the sticker price was too high because I can go to another dealer and get it cheaper and they knocked off another $1k.

And then I asked him what the APR was. He was very evasive and kept telling me to look at the monthly payments because that’s what “really matters.” No, what really matters is what I’m paying for the car overall which is the sticker price + state fees (unavoidable) + interest rate.

Dealer #1 finally told me the APR and it was 3x the rate I knew I was eligible for. I told him that’s not gonna work. He turned aggressive and said that I’m a first time buyer and I can’t expect better and that I’m being unrealistic to expect a lower rate and etc etc.

So I said that my bank quoted me a rate half that much and I’ll just go through them and buy later (at a different dealer). Because I want the car but there’s 2 other places I can go to get it in my area.

Then all of a sudden dealer #1 could get me a better APR. His next offer was 2x what I wanted to pay. I said nah that good enough.

Then they brought out dealer #2, who was a Black guy. He didn’t sit down and instantly start talking about the price. He said a bunch of small talk and said some stuff about being Black lol. Tryna be chummy chummy and connect with us on a racial level.

Then he tried to push the same numbers as dealer #1. I said I know I’m young and I don’t have a math background but you’re charging me way too much for this car and I’m not going to buy it at that price. Period. I said: get the APR down and I’ll buy the car. He kept telling me it wasn’t possible and I said okay…I won’t buy it.

But then he was like wait…lemme run the numbers. And ta da! He came back with the right APR. Also zero down. And payments lower than my target.

This whole process took 5 hours.

Moral of the story:

- know as much as you can before going to a dealership so you can focus on the numbers
- know your credit score so you know what your APR should be
- get approved through an independent bank for a loan so you have leverage to negotiate with a better rate from the dealer
- don’t focus on monthly payments. Times that by the amount of months so you know what you’re REALLY paying
- threaten to walk because stuff magically happens at dealerships when you do lol

YES. and I will also swear by The Toast’s How to Buy a Car Without Interacting With a Human

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